Life can feel short and long. It’s easy to fall into a mindset that everyone is ahead of you or doing better than you. You must try to understand that everyone is dealt different cards, different circumstances, even different environments. You are where you are supposed to be right now even if it feels otherwise. As we grow into our 20’s it’s easy to get confused about where our life is meant to be because there are people going in so many different directions at different speeds. Some people our age are hitting milestones that we want to hit earlier than us and it can make us feel behind and even as failures. It can make us feel lost. You’re on your own timeline. Let’s talk about how to handle feeling lost and behind in life. 

Immerse yourself in the activities you enjoy and bring you happiness and peace. Enjoy the present because the future will always be there. If this means spending more time with friends and family or if it means taking more time for your hobbies. Diving into teaching myself a new baking recipe always makes me feel happy and productive. 

Think about where you want to be. This may trigger a feeling of feeling behind a little further in the beginning, but think of using this as a guide. Write down your goals with a reasonable timeframe. Give yourself time to have bumps in the road. When writing down your goals and timeline also write down how you can achieve these goals. If one of the goals is to pay off student loans maybe working more hours over the summer. If the goal is to get straight A’s next semester, make a study schedule that allows you to spend more time on your studies. Maybe you will wake up an hour earlier a few days a week to allow 2-4 more hours a week of study time. 

Feed your mind. It’s so comforting to know that you are not the only one who has felt this way or even feels this way. Feed your mind with reassurance from yourself and books about what you are going through. I personally am really enjoy reading books about self building. 

Remember that your direction is more important than your speed. If you fall track or hit bumps in the road it’s okay don’t let it compromise your destination. It may take some time, but you will fulfill all your dreams.