I’m scared to make decisions. Specifically, I am scared to make the wrong decision. I do not think that I am ready to make a decision NOW about my future. Things change. Feelings change. People change.
If this sounds like you, then the both of us have Analysis Paralysis. Analysis paralysis is when you do not make a choice because you’re scared to make the wrong choice. Its ok to be scared. You’re not the only one. I am scared too.
On Thursday, October 11, I went to a Lunch and Lead: Leading your Career workshop hosted by Julie Neill, and during the workshop, I learned so much about how to take ownership of your career.
Lets say for example, you live in an apartment by yourself. You have bills to pay, but you also want to go to school. How do you make a decision to go to school full time when you can lose your apartment and be unable to take care of yourself?
First of all, I salute you. You”re adulting hard. If you’re scared to make a decision at this point, its ok! Really.
If you feel blocked in a binary choice (its either work and pay apartment and no full time school, or full time school and lose everything), look at things differently. What are you not considering? Get a broader view. We get locked into only 1 possibility and develop tunnel vision. So, DE-ESCALATE. See 3rd person point of view.
Instead of being trapped, be like Nike and “Just Do It!” Perhaps you can go to school part time during Fall or Spring and full time in summer. Address what is real and what is not real.
What if you’re like me, and you do not even know what to do.
Consider these quotations:
“If you don’t know where you are going, any road will get you there”-Lewis Carroll
“We must let go of the life we have planned, so as to accept the one waiting for us”-Joseph Campbell
In life, you do not have all the answers, and when thinking about something, it is not always linear. Remember, No Risk, No Reward. So first, start with a small risk, and see its repercussions whether good or bad. Lead yourself to whatever you wanna be. You have a choice in each action, and your actions lead to a particular outcome. Do not feel dis-empowered. Fear holds people back from dreams. Embrace your failure and learn from it. Remember the African proverb: You always learn a lot more when you lose than when you win.
Leadership is all about emotional intelligence. You do not have to be at the top. You can lead wherever you are . It begins with making that choice. So, what do you want to emanate?
Also, whiles you’re adulting, take this blog as an advice and remember:
- Advice is a stranger; if he’s welcome he stays for the night; if not, he leaves the same day. ~Malagasy Proverb
- Wisdom is like fire. People take it from others. ~ Hema (DRC) proverb
- In the moment of crisis, the wise build bridges and the foolish build dams. ~ Nigerian proverb
BTW….before you do all that. Take a break